Saturday, January 30, 2010

My Exercise Partner – My 9 year Old – Pay Backs!


My New Years resolution was to take better care of myself. I spoke at dinner one night about wanting to get back to the YMCA to exercise, now that I am feeling better after my December illness. I declared that I should be ready to go by "next week". Anthony asked if he could go too! Oh, and that was also the week that my college teaching started back up. Probably a little ambitious of me to set out for all of these big changes at once.

...Back up a year or so ago… Anthony and I set out to work out at 5am a year or so ago, and we made it about two days. He is a early morning person, and has a routine that involves ESPN or watching a recorded sports event on TV at 5:30am. That doesn't seem healthy for a 9 year old, so I had offered to take him to work out if he would wake me up. That would surely be better for him than watching re-runs of Astros games at 5am, which is what he often does – he is a baseball fanatic, and a huge Astros fan. He loved the permission to wake me up. He is pretty relentless about waking me, and I think it is fun for him – certainly more fun than watching a 1999 Astros game by himself. I didn't want to wake up, but once he started, I knew he would not go away. I had to get up. This was good for me too. I needed all the help I can to get this baby weight x 4 off, and my baby was three! After a couple of trips to the gym, he stopped waking me up. He was up, but I think he got bored with the exercise, and missed catching up on his Astros trivia. I, of course, was not that entrenched in my exercise routine, and quite fond of my sleep, so I didn't say a word. (Bad Mommy!)

So now in 2010, we are off to another journey at the gym. Mother and Son are so different, yet so much alike – sadly. Anthony is my type A child (that isn't me) and he takes a lot of patience.  He has no patience -- even less than your average 9 yr old, maybe because he manages to be so annoying that everyone gives into his demands.  He is a stickler for doing what you say you are going to do (unless it is something he doesn't want to do – ha!). He is a rule nazi (unless it is a rule he wants to break). He may be a little wishy washy on keeping his word, but he is very good at keeping others to their word though. He is so annoying that you have to do it, just to shut him up! After I had been up late working on my college classes, he woke me up on the first Tuesday after I proclaimed I was ready, and I whined and rolled over. I told him I didn't feel well yet. I begged for him to leave me alone. I did this long enough that it was too late to go! I didn't get anymore sleep, and the morning was painful. I hate starting mornings this way. We had a huge scene at breakfast about mommy not doing what she said she would – give me a break! I was in a bad mood for 2 days. How dare anyone question what I don't do – after all I DO do so much for these little stinkers! He was right though. I have done this all my life. I put it off. I find any excuse (sorry Dad). I think early morning exercise sounds great. It is great, once I have gotten to the gym, but waking is so hard for me.

When I was about 14 years old, I lived with my single dad for a while. It was just he and I (and a couple of Nannies that didn't last). He and I set up a plan to start jogging in the early morning. We would jog to the highway and back (2 miles on a gravel road). He would wake me at something like 4am (probably 6am, but it seemed too early). When I tried not to get up, he would bring a cup of ice water and start dripping it on me, drop by drop on my face. Finally, I would give up and get up. We'd start jogging… "I have cotton mouth… I can't breathe, My leg hurts, my pinky hurts"... anything… just make it stop! He didn't let me stop. He teased me for being a wimp, but my dad is the toughest of tough nails! We didn't even take any water on these jaunts, and these gravel roads were not the best track. I disagreed then, but I see it now. I was a whiney wimpy girl. I still think we could have had some water. Sorry Dad! Thanks for putting up with me.

So when Anthony and I hit the gym for the first time, we quickly made it to the stairmaster. I haven't exercised in quite some time, so we needed to get going. In the beginning, he started climbing really fast, claiming "this isn't hard". That lasted about 30 seconds. 5 minutes into it, he was tired and wanted to stop. 10 minutes into it, he was hungry… "can't we get something to eat?" At 15 minutes, I noticed he was struggling. I pointed to a TV monitor in front of us and said "Look, that is ESPN. You can watch that." He said "Okay. Thanks!" and started to get off the machine. He thought I was telling him he could sit down and watch TV. I told him "No! You have to watch while you exercise.  If you are going to get me up in the morning, darnit, you are going to keep going!" That wasn't so exciting for him. I don't think this is child abuse.  Is it?  Finally we finished our first workout. Two days later, we tried it again. I didn't get up the first time he woke me and he was mad. I did get up in time to go though. This time, he spied a bicycle machine with a monitor that had some sort of video game where he was to pedal the bike through this course and get some monsters or something. I thought this was right up his alley. I positioned myself at a nearby elliptical machine, and the first time I looked over, he was playing the video game and no pedaling was going on. I had to remind him to keep pedaling a few times before he gave up and joined me on the elliptical. He whined a little, but we made it – one week and 2 trips to the YMCA at 5am. We are on our way!  I need to get in shape to be healthier and keep up with this crazy life, and my boy needs to get in shape because he is used to success, and is entering the years when sports are becoming more competitive.  He has had a huge growth spirt, and is eating us out of house and home already.  We just need to keep him burning enough calories to eat that much so he doesn't fight the battle that his mommy does.  He can't stand not to win, but some tough lessons are ahead in this crazy utopian suburb where kids have personal trainers and private lessons to make the team.  Lord help us!

I have to admit, it felt good. Once I get up, I am glad I did it. I hope he will last longer than one week this time around. I crack up though. I remember that cotton mouth Dad. Though my child sucks the life out of me, and I blame Daddy for that personality, maybe he has a little of Mommy in him after all.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Happy Birthday Aunt Holly!

Happy 40th Aunt Holly.  We love you and miss you.
If you remember the family photo you tried to take of us all at the beach a couple of years ago, you may understand how many "takes" and edits were required to avoid violence on film.  This is now Rated G, but the unedited version is still unrated for various reasons.

See our Crazy Rock Band Video


Santa Brought Us a Ski Trip - 4 Kids On Skis

I think I could have seriously injured my husband when he sent me an email just a few days prior to Christmas with the idea of pulling together a last minute ski trip in New Mexico to surprise our Children for Christmas. The man just simply cannot sit still. Doesn’t Santa know that Mommy is tired? I should be grateful that he wants to take us on vacations, but I was so looking forward to some family quiet time during the holidays. Quiet time just is not for us though. I keep dreaming, but it somehow never works out. Though I was not feeling fully recovered from my illness and surgery in December, I did not want to be the “fun hater”, so I went along with the plan.

In the end, I think I probably got more rest by agreeing to this trip. I did not ski, for fear of getting sick again, so I had a few hours per day of time to myself. Since we were not at home, I was away from the many projects and tasks that haunt me daily, and keep me from relaxing. While we were away, I could ignore the Christmas tree, and many things that needed to be done at home. Maybe this was a good plan afterall. I just took walks in the snow with the dog and hung out doing not much of anything. This really never happens at home.

The weather was beautiful, and I was tempted to ski, but I held off because I really need to keep my health. I enjoyed the scenery, and seeing my children have a blast in the snow. AND… when I saw my 4th child actually skiing, it made it all worth it. He was actually doing it. He was so proud! We have 4 kids who ski now. The younger two really came into the sport this trip. I am sad that I was not on the mountain with them, but I am glad that I got to see it from a distance and in pictures.

Video of our skiing( click on link)


Sunday, January 10, 2010

It’s a New Year! My New Year’s Resolution…

During the last 2 months of 2009, I experienced illness like no other I have experienced. Actually, it started when I ruptured my eardrum in August, just as we were preparing to begin the school year. From that point, I had an infection that moved from my ears to my sinus to my throat, until finally in November, I conceded to have sinus surgery. My 2 boys had tonsillectomy before thanksgiving, and our deductible for the year had been met, so I didn't have much time to waste. I just held my breath and agreed to sinus surgery, which as we discussed, might lead to tonsillectomy, as I just wanted this stage of illness to end. I was desperate.

On December 1, I went in for surgery, and the tonsils were included in the deal. As painful as sinus surgery is, if you have tonsils out at the same time, the sinus surgery seems minor. I would have all 3 of my c-sections at once over that tonsil surgery. In order to swallow, I needed pain med, but taking the pain med on an empty stomach made me nautious, and thus I couldn't keep food down. I got dehydrated, and then developed pneumonia, which would cause the recovery period to triple in time. In December, this was not good news for a mom of 4 kids awaiting Christmas. Santa would be traveling light this year, it seems.

What I learned during this illness though is patience. I haven't been terribly patient in the past. I feel like I am on a fast moving treadmill that doesn't ever have time to stop. During my illness, I was forced to rest and to stop, and nothing terrible happened. I have not stopped to take care of myself at all in the past. I am going to do better at this in 2010. I promise. I am lucky that my illness was something with a cure, and I felt guilty for feeling sorry for myself, knowing that there are much worse things I could have. I cannot imagine going through anything worse or longer than what I just went through, but I know there are many worse things I could face. I will appreciate my health, and take better care of myself in this new year! I am still not 100%, but when I am, I will get to the health club for exercise, and I will stop for rest, eat healthy, and take better care of me! For the first time, I am motivated to do this because I need to feel better, and not just because I want to fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans. I need to be here for my children, and have the energy to keep up with them, and that begins with taking better care of myself. Happy 2010! It is going to be a better year for all of us. I just know it!